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How should I approach and talk to someone I fancy?

Most people find approaching and talking to someone they fancy very difficult, even if they don’t admit it. And the more you fancy someone the harder it can be. Everyone worries that they will be rejected.

It is always a good idea to get to know the person as a friend first.

One way to improve your chances is to practice what you are going to say with a good friend. If you can rehearse this and hear possible responses, this will help you. You could also ask them to find out what he or she thinks of you.

It is important they like you for who you are, so just relax and be yourself.

REMEMBER… Nothing ventured, nothing gained!


TheSite has some great tips on how to flirt with and talk to people you fancy.

The NHS teen site also offers good advice for boosting your confidence.